Saturday, September 3, 2011

Dating Myself

I feel very tempted to change the name of my blog to Dating Myself. Which is what I've been doing the past 7 years in my search for love. And Carrie Bradshaw and friends thought they had it hard. I suppose I have no one to blame but myself for the predicament I now find myself in--HIV- men are not lining up to date someone who is positive. They just aren't. In the past 7 years, I've had a number of first dates. Fewer second dates. Which is when I usually tell the guy about my status. I can honestly say that I have not had a single third date. Zero. Without exception, they have all fled. Can I blame them? I don't know. I never had a positive man say they wanted to date me when I was negative. Would I have also stopped returning phone calls and e-mails? Would I also have not wanted to deal with it?

Whenever I start feeling sorry for myself I just get out of the house and go on a date. With myself. It sounds kind of pathetic, but otherwise it would just get too damn lonely. So today I went down to the East Village to watch a movie. But not before stopping at Subway where I ordered my favorite steak and cheese on wheat. (I must have been feeling extra sorry today because I also got a bag of salt and vinegar chips.) Then I went to the Sunshine theater to watch Love Crime, a French movie starring Kristin Scott Thomas speaking impeccable(!) French. She's such a bewitching actress. I must say I couldn't understand all the negative reviews. I was captivated from start to finish by the performances of the lead actresses.

Part of the craziness of dating yourself is that you've got to talk to yourself while you're on the date. Otherwise, it's not really much of a date, is it? I think this must be how people start to go crazy. Insanity or loneliness? I think it's a no-brainer.


Raven said...

I used to go to the movies by myself all the time. I got to decide when to go, where to go, what to see, and what to eat, if anything. It was so much easier. :)

Nowadays there's mostly nothing I'm willing to pay to see, though. Not where I am, anyway. I'm no longer near a theater that plays foreign movies.

Dessy said...

I do understand, remember, love is a tricky thing. People always fantize about the kind of love they see in romantic films. The kind of romance that seems impossible. And in 99% of the cases it is. Love is more than physical attraction, it's caring for each other when their worst sides are showing. Continue to love yourself for who you are-

J.T. said...

Hi Raven, last weekend I went to see Drive, violent but a beautiful portrayal of LA. I've also seen Contagion and Moneyball. I didn't care for the former; Brad Pitt puts on a good show in the latter. Hope you're doing well.

@Dessy: thanks for your kind, wise words. I will take them to heart.